Question:
Why are there so many fake 8s?
Katherine:
Here are a few thoughts on why there are so many fake 8s
Over time, I’ve noticed that many type 6s exhibit 8-like behaviors, especially as a way to shield themselves from their deep-seated fears—fears of being overwhelmed, manipulated, misled, or taken advantage of. In particular, 6s often use this defense mechanism to mask their underlying anxiety and insecurities, which they might view as unattractive or undesirable.
When people try to type themselves, those who feel frequent anger may be drawn to the 8 descriptions, especially the version from 1970. The original Enneagram descriptions, written by Robert Ochs in 1971, were fairly minimal and emphasized the negative, reactive aspects of each type rather than delving into the deeper motivations behind their behaviors.
It’s also common for people who struggle with anger management to identify as 8s. However, we all experience anger at times, and what’s key is the underlying trigger. What specifically set off the anger? Was it something related to an idealized image or an internalized sense of self that got threatened?
When anger flares, it’s important to reflect on the following: What idealized image was challenged just before the emotional outburst? Which core fears emerged in response to that threat? We often protect not just the external situation but also the internal identity.
Another way to think about anger is to ask: What extreme, defensive stance did I take to justify my reaction? What part of myself feels in danger of being invalidated? Is it my self-image as a strong protector, a capable individual, or perhaps a unique person? Why does this image feel so essential to my sense of security? And, most importantly, what would it mean if this idealized version of myself were to crumble?
When we’re triggered, it’s often not just about what happened to us but how we interpreted it. What core sense of self was undermined? Was it my sense of being helpful, unique, or resilient? Which of these self-concepts is so vital to my emotional safety?
Reflecting on when these patterns first emerged can be helpful. At what age did you first feel this way? Why did you feel this way, then? What happened in that moment, and how did you interpret it? Understanding the origins of these emotional reactions can shed light on the motivations that fuel your anger and defenses today.
In the end, the path to understanding and growth is not just about labeling anger and toughness as type 8 traits. It is about recognizing that we all have heart-based idealized images that our egos protect at all costs. And that our corresponding set of head-based core fears and paranoia emerges if the self-images are threatened. Our defenses and dogmatic gut-based convictions protect these images and fears that keep us mired in anger, resistance, and/or stonewalling.
When these three centers merge, the ego has a more specific view of the danger, real or imagined, and triggers the defense strategies to take over and defend our ego's view of reality. It’s about exploring the deeper layers of our egos—what’s beneath the surface we’re trying to protect, defend, and justify; and why it matters so much to us.