The Sexual 7, the Charmed Charmer, sparkles with intoxicating allure, eager to captivate and enthrall. Drawing from Katherine Fauvre’s research on the internal experiences reported by Sexual 7s themselves, this subtype is characterized by a passionate desire for stimulation, novelty, and emotional intensity, especially within moments of excitement and romantic contexts. Sexual 7s describe themselves as being more “in love with love” and the “fantasy of connection'‘ than with the physical expressions of love. They are most excited by the moment the fantasy arises, becoming intoxicated with possibility before reality sets in.
Sexual 7s masterfully engage others through charismatic wit, playful seduction, and boundless imagination. Their strength lies in their ability to infuse interactions with excitement and anticipation, effortlessly charming and inspiring those around them. They are visionary idealists, continually imagining thrilling possibilities and deeply energized by the potential for romance and adventure.
However, Sexual 7s frequently struggle with disappointment and emotional pain when excitement inevitably wanes. The initial thrill of romantic fantasies often fades rapidly, leaving them disillusioned and restless. Their internal discomfort grows from fears of boredom, stagnation, and disappointing others when their interest fades, complicating sustained intimacy.
To cope, Sexual 7s rely on strategies such as seeking constant change, novelty, and new experiences. They frequently introduce exciting activities, ideas, or relationships to keep emotional discomfort at bay and maintain a sense of exhilaration. Their relentless pursuit of excitement can become a defense against deeper feelings of emotional emptiness or fear of commitment.
The growing edge for Sexual 7s involves embracing life's joys and sorrows equally, recognizing meaning and fulfillment in both. True growth emerges as they learn to manage their fear of disappointment and resist the urge to flee from limitations. By cultivating emotional stability and valuing sustained intimacy, Sexual 7s can forge deeper, authentic relationships, appreciating the natural ebb and flow that defines genuine, soulful connections.
Post is from Katherine Fauvre's blog at katherinefauvre.com. Drawn from her decades of research, masterclasses, and books, this content reflects the firsthand experiences of the types and subtypes. For an in-depth exploration of the Sexual 7 and other subtype variants, see Katherine's comprehensive work, Enneagram Instinctual Subtypes 2.0, available on Amazon.